Based on qualitative research, a parenting model was developed as a way to curb the damage caused by digital media abuse.
Developing a 'Parenting Model' The proposed parenting model, depicted in the following Fig. 01, has been designed to disseminate the relevant knowledge of proper use of digital media as a significant part of Teenagers’ lives and how to adopt measures to save our girls from becoming the victim and build safe, healthy, decent sexual and reproductive health.The proposed parenting model, depicted in Fig. 01, is intended to disseminate relevant knowledge of proper use of digital media as a significant part of teenagers' lives, as well as how to implement measures to prevent our girls from becoming victims and to build safe, healthy, and decent sexual and reproductive health. This model has multiple stakeholders, and the government is the key to implementing it. This is proposed as an inter-ministerial initiative, i.e., the Ministry of Education, the Division of ICT, and the Ministry of Information, where the Directorate of Secondary and Primary Education is the implementing agency. Under the project "Generation Breakthrough’ of the Ministry of Education (MoE), this model can be implemented where "CSAWE" can be integrated to bring efficiency and efficacy to the project. A guidebook for disseminating information on the proper use of digital media and associated measures along with tackling mental disorders is supposed to be made. The following sketch of activities can be stepped up for implementing the model;
- Each month or at a particular time, a guardian council will be held in each educational institution across Bangladesh.
- Under this council, a parenting workshop to make them understand the potential measures related to digital devices issues will be conducted by the appointed teacher.
- A guidebook for educating parents nationally can be created.
- In the initial phase, only one copy of the guidebook can be distributed for each school under the project where a responsible teacher will discuss those concerning issues. Later, it can be expanded as per the need.
- Each teacher of the schools and colleges must be brought under decent use of digital devices and its impact so that it would be possible to avert abuses by the teachers.
The parents should undergo the preventive and curative measures, figured out from the qualitative investigation, presented as the following;
Preventive Measures
The most significant issue is how to prevent children and teenagers from becoming victims. Parents should take over all the approaches to ensure the proper use of digital media.
A. Evidence-Trust-Relationship
It should be built on evidence and trust-based relationships between parents and children. For bolstering this relation, evidence should not be overlooked. It is obvious to commence a practice of listening to the children. They should observe the level of rudeness in behavior, the reaction against any tiny thing, the attentiveness in the study, the evaluation of the results in the exam closely, and attempt to find out the underlying reasons behind any degradation.
One Participant Opined that as the following;
“…Some parents failed to build a healthy relationship with their children based on trust and evidence. As a result, the children hide from their parents and make mistakes. Both children and their parents pay the price for that.” (KII-8, Academician)
Another participant stated the scenario as the following;
“…Last month, I paid a visit to my sister's home." Suddenly, I was shocked to witness an unexpected event related to my niece. My sister started scolding her daughter for a transgression without asking for the real truth from her. I was shocked and asked my sister why they were doing so without evidence. My sister replied, "I don’t need "I said your daughter’s mind is growing with mistrust.” (KII-6, Researcher)
B. Psychological Measures
Instead of rude behavior, parents need to take prompt, peaceful action with patience if any weird things are noticed in the conduct of their children. Parents must ensure the environment is where children can share anything with their mothers.
One Participant, an Academician, expressed this issue as the following;
c. “…majority of the parents don’t want to their children’s desires and expectations. They always expect their parents to be loving, caring, and forgiving. When parents demonstrate rude behavior, it gives a special signal to their children, and gradually, they start feeling inferior, alone, and stressed at home.” (KII-10, Academician)
Another participant, NGO Worker, expressed this issue as the following;
“…mental health of the children is shaped by their parents' support, warmth, and empathetic behavior. Any mental health disorders resulting from grave stress and anxiety where the parental role can positively transform the status with greater success. However, most parents fail to demonstrate appropriate behavior due to the honor in the society.” (KII-16, NGO Worker)
D. Verbal Measures
Proper parenting should be implemented at the right moment based on the necessities in line with the children's growth.
A Participant, a Researcher, shared this issue as the following;
“…children grow with their age-adjusted needs, expectations and thoughts. They learn to implement the behaviour they observe and experience. Parental verbal expressions play a dominant role in building a healthy relationship. If children don’t hear the wrong words, they will never practise them. (KII-1, Researcher)
Another Participant, an Academician, shared her feeling as the following;
“… Age-appropriate, as well as appropriate conduct, is essential for a healthier and happier child-parent relationship. Aggressive behaviour like shouting, slapping, beating, etc. can cause a long-term effect on the healthy relationship, decreasing respect towards parents.” (KII-7, Researcher)
“Parents should emphasise the preventive aspects of behaviour on a personal level, in domestic and societal affairs. Maintaining a healthy relationship among family members should be prioritised even if it goes against society and if it is the right choice. Sometimes, negative verbal expressions like scolding should not be in front of relatives and other than family members and sometimes, hiding children’s faults from other family members works much better than adopting bitter interventions.” (KII-17, NGO Worker).
E. Technological Measures
Obscene programs can be restricted from TV channels. Parents should help to make the girls understand i.e., more conscious while seeking help from the computer mechanic or operator; be aware when the Teenagers browse the internet in a cyber-café or anywhere else because any hidden settings may be installed for trapping the young girls; and trying not to disclose the password of social media account, android phone, etc. with any others.
One informant, a Researcher, expressed his thoughts on this phenomenal issue as the following;
“…Parents must be aware of the know-how of the technical devices and tools. They should educate their daughters and sons regarding the negative things about using the internet, including digital platforms. It is better to take extra precautions in terms of using digital devices” (KII-2, Researcher)
One informant, an Academician, shared his thoughts on this phenomenal issue as the following;
“..before the age of 18, no children should have a smartphone with uninterrupted internet connection. Parents should have a close monitoring of their children regularly” (KII-4, Researcher)
One informant, NGO Worker, shared his thoughts on this phenomenal issue as the following;
“As the daughters are more vulnerable than boys, parents should have meticulous attention in educating about the precautionary aspects of using social networking sites” (KII-5, Researcher)
Curative Measures
Undoubtedly, the stage of curative measures is unwelcome because it starts after the victimisation of what we never desire. However, it is imperative to understand how to tackle the situation after victimisation. The following measures are in this category;
a) Psychological Measures
The most significant curative measure is to show empathy and full of mental support from parents after becoming victimised. Parents should not behave angrily with their children because Teenagers and teenagers can lose hope of living without permission. A single mistake of the parents can take the life of that victim.
One informant, a Researcher, shared his thoughts on this phenomenal issue as the following;
“A victim, mostly the daughters, remains in grave depression and anxiety after the incident. During that time, parents must realise the mental situation and act accordingly” (KII-9, Academician)
One informant, a Researcher, expressed his thoughts on this phenomenal issue as the following;
“In most cases, the victims try to revitalise their strength even after a severe mental shock, but the parents aggravate the situation. The suicidal ideation is generated among the daughters because of the parental negative response towards the incidents” (KII-3, Researcher)
b) Cyber Security Help
There is a range of help numbers from the government and NGOs, i.e., 109, for women and children harassment control; 999, for national emergency service; 16430, for legal aid national helpline. These numbers should be disseminated widely among Teenagers, and teenagers, especially among girls and women. Parents can also seek help from any known cyber experts who can do something in this regard.
One informant, a Researcher, expressed his thoughts on this phenomenal issue as the following;
“Bold intervention can save a victim’s life. Government and some NGOs are very active in this regard. Without hesitation, parents and victims immediately should seek help from the concerned authority.” (KII-14, Journalist)
One informant, a Researcher, shared her thoughts on this phenomenal issue as the following;
“Each parent should help their daughter memorise the national helpline number. I have observed that many girls and women don’t know the helpline number, and many don’t know how to call it.” (KII-13, Journalist)
C) Legal Aid And Law Enforcement Agency
Parents need to contact them immediately after those incidents to file cases against the offenders. Legal aid can also be found from renowned agencies, including Ain o Salish Kendra, Bangladesh National Women Lawyers' Association, Bangladesh Legal Aid and Services Trust, National Law Aid Providing Organization, etc.
One informant, NGO Worker, expressed her thoughts on this issue as the following:
“Previously, it was difficult to sue a case against an offender due to the lack of legal aid agencies, but nowadays, several national, as well as local level agencies, are working to proceed with courage and justice.” (KII-18, NGO Worker)