The main objective of this study was to explore the experiences of family caregivers who care for patients with COVID-19 at home to obtain a deep and rich insight about this phenomenon. The themes that emerged from family caregivers are answers to the primary question, “Please explain your experiences in the caring of patients with positive coronavirus” Twenty five themes emerged from 160 subthemes which were integrated into three main themes and eight subthemes, with the main themes being: “caring for a patient means captured in a whirlpool of time”, “resilient care” and “feeling helpless.”.
Captured In A Whirlpool Of Time
This was the first theme identified, in family members’ caring for patients with COVID-19. It included the two subthemes of “remembering past life” and “fear of the future”. These themes reflect the fact that caring for a family member patient involved positive reflection on a peaceful past which contrasted with a fearful and unknown future, and the prospect of not being able to re-experience that positive past. Caught between a positive past and an uncertain future, the family caregiver becomes fearful and worried and experiences loss of energy and low mood.
Remembering past life
Participants spent time reviewing memories and in the care-giving period looked at family pictures and films and reviewed memories with their family member patient, often expressing regret that they did not spend more time together.
Participant number 2 who was caring for her 68-year old mother with coronavirus for 10 days said:
I always remember good old days. Everything was good. On Fridays, we were gathering at her home and spending good time until the midnight.
Participant number 9 who was caring for her husband for 3 days stated:
These days, I checked old photos. I sit behind his room door and we talk about past memories.
Fear of the future
According to the family caregivers caring for patients with coronavirus, this activity is accompanied by fear of the future. This fear has various aspects such as “fear of getting worse”, “fear of death”, and “fear of getting the disease”.
The participants stated that due to the unfolding nature of the pandemic, they were uncertain and scared of the future. If the patient gets sicker, what should they do? This is the fear of loss and death of their loved ones. In this regard, a 39- year old woman caring for her father stated:
With these situations, it is not clear what will happen. I am scared of the future if my father gets worse and forcing me to take him to the hospital.
Participant number 11, a 29 year-old man caring for his wife at home stated:
I cannot live without my wife even for a second. I am scared of the future and what will happen to her.
Moreover, a major concern of the participants was fear of other family members, including themselves, of becoming infected.
“In addition to the concerns for my husband, I'm worried that my son will get the coronavirus too.” (Participant 6).
Resilient Care
Participants stated that although they faced the problems associated with care they recognized that some factors were out of their control and they needed to find safe solutions for the things they could control, using goal setting and problem-solving approaches. In this regard, goals such as family reunion and returning to normal life helped the career by providing them with hope. In addition, according to the beliefs of the participants, nothing occurs without reason, and this is a system determined by God. This divine fate has been taken into consideration by the participants from two perspectives.. Some people consider it a gift by God and others believe that these events are aimed at awakening people and are an opportunity for people to both compensate for the past to be prepared for the present situation.. Three subthemes emerging in this theme are “purposeful life”, “self-esteem”, and “acceptance of fate” (Table 2).
Table 2
Subthemes of resilient care
Resilient care | Subtheme | Statements |
Purposefulness | A 33 year- old woman caring for her husband for 5 days stated: I repeatedly tell myself that we should be together again. I should not give up. |
Self-esteem | “I can and I repeat it all the time. I do not give up.” (Participant 1) Participant number 14, caring for his brother stated: I am different from my sisters and brothers because I was always independent and could take advantage of the worst conditions. For this reason, I care for my brother because I know that I can. |
Acceptance of fate | A 23- year old midwife caring for her father at home stated: Everything by God has a reason and this is a gift that tells me God loves me and wants to see how strong I am. A 45 year-old man caring for his 12 -year old boy due to Duchenne muscular dystrophy (DMD) and his wife suffered from COVID-19 stated: I was so ungrateful. God sent this to tell me I am watching you and move yourself. |
Feeling Helpless
The third theme that emerged in this study was “feeling helpless” with two subthemes of “loneliness” and “a sense of shame”. A part of this loneliness experience is due to careers, to protect other family members and friends against getting the virus, isolating themselves due to a fear of others becoming infected. People exercising this caution often do not feel that people are sympathetic to their circumstances, and they feel a sense of helplessness and loneliness. The second sub-theme that leads to a sense of helplessness in the individual. It is a shame that a person has realized that his family member is infected. In fact, he understands the disease in a range from lack of hygiene to guilty. For this reason, she has separated herself from others, and this loneliness and shame have fueled her sense of helplessness.
Maryam is a PhD candidate in math caring for her parents at home:
I had to tell my brother and his wife not to come here. It been 8 days that nobody has met us and this is for them but at least, they could call!
Participant 10 said:
I told nobody that my husband is sick because they would say he does not wash his hands or maybe he has done something bad and now he is experiencing the consequences!