In the present study, 16 members of the families of COVID-19 deceased victims were interviewed. The participants consisted of 9 females and 7 males (6 wives, 3 husbands, 4 sons, 1 daughter and 2 mothers). The average age of the participants was 38 years. Also, the majority of them had a diploma, and they had a moderate economic level. Two main themes—emotional shock and fear of the future—with 9 categories were extracted from the data. Table 1 shows the themes and categories.
A. Emotional shock
The participants mentioned that the emotional shock caused by the loss of their family members to COVID-19 was very intense and the worst psychological crisis which they had ever had to deal with. To adapt to their current situation and overcome the pain, they needed systematic psychological support from healthcare teams. The theme of emotional shock consists of 5 categories: catastrophizing and rumination, bitter farewell, parting in desolation, concern about unreligious burial, and stigmatization.
- Catastrophizing and rumination
The bereaved families in the present study stated that the sudden death of their family members had been a catastrophe and that they were constantly engaged in ruminating on it. They continuously reflect on the manner of infection of their deceased and keep thinking that they may have transferred the coronavirus to their families and caused the death of their loved ones.
"My dad just died in two days without showing any symptoms of the disease though he followed all the recommended rules of hygiene outside home and at work. But I spent a lot of time with my friends and did not follow those rules. I keep thinking, reviewing events, ruminating about it, telling myself that I could have given the infection to him. He was middle-aged and had a weaker immunity system; he got it from me and passed away. This rumination is agonizing" (Participant 2).
The participants mentioned that parting from their deceased family members had been the bitterest and saddest moment in their lives. Their deaths had been so sudden that they did not have the chance to talk to their loved ones and express their love to them for the last time. They only experienced a bitter farewell.
"My wife was a young, patient, and caring woman. I always thought I still had a lot of time to tell her how I felt about her, how much I loved her, and show my love to her. But she suddenly got sick and died. It was unbelievable. The only thing that I could tell her was a bitter good-bye" (Participant 8).
One of the most important categories under the theme of emotional shock is mournful separation. The participants stated that they never expected to have to have their loved ones buried by sanitation workers in the absence of their relatives and friends and not even have the chance to embrace them for the last time.
"My mom could barely draw in her last breaths and I was all in tears but I couldn't even hug her for the last time. And when she passed away, we couldn’t have her body. They only told us at what time and place she would be buried. At her funeral, we had to stand at a distance from her grave because of the safety regulations and none of our relatives and friends could be there. My mom was buried by sanitary workers. That agonizing separation will stay in my mind forever" (Participant 8).
- Concern about unreligious burial
The participants pointed out that one of the worst psychological crises which they had experienced after the death of their loved ones was their concern that they would be buried in an unorthodox and unreligious manner. They stated that the only thing that could console them a little in that situation was to know that, even if they could not bury their loved ones in the company of their relatives and friends, they would be buried in a proper religious manner.
"We all have our own beliefs. My father was a very religious man. When he was sick, he was worried that he would be buried without getting a full ablution and a shroud (Islamic burial rites). When he passed away, my only wish was to bury him according to Islamic principles. That was a big concern to me—it was the least I could do for my father. When he was buried based on our religious rites, I was fairly relieved" (Participant 14).
The participants of the present study also mentioned that being stigmatized and labeled by people after the death of their loved ones was one of the most painful psychological crises that they had experienced.
"People are terrified of this disease and try to keep away from us. It's been two months since my husband's death, but every time I'm walking down the alley and want to enter my apartment, I feel and hear people talking behind my back, calling me "virus spreader," "miserable woman," "poor thing" and so on. These names disturb me so much" (Participant 9).
B. Fear of the future
The other theme extracted from the data is fear of the future. The bereaved families of COVID-19 victims state that fear and uncertainty about the future continuously haunts them. Their main concerns were about the stability of their families, job security, their interactions, and the financial status of their families. This theme consists of four categories: instability in the family, lack of job security, complications in social interactions, and difficult financial conditions.
- Instability in the family
According to the participants, death of a family member, especially the father, has a very adverse effect on the stability of the family. Many mothers cannot or are not allowed to stay with their children, which inflicts significant psychological tension on them.
"I'm 26 years old and I've lost my husband to the coronavirus. The pain is indescribable. But what is worse is that I have a 6-year-old son and my father-in-law has his custody now and he won't let me take him to live with me. I don't know what to do—I've lost my husband and if I want to move in with my parents or start a new life, he's going to take my child away from me. Can life get any more miserable? … I lost everything overnight, my family is ruined" (Participant 4).
The participants also stated that fear of losing their jobs and uncertainty about employment were issues which preoccupied them and caused them considerable stress.
"I lost my mom to coronavirus. Everyone at work knows about this. Ever since my mom's death, my boss has told me not to go to work. I'm telecommuting now. But the private company I work for is reducing its workforce, and as things stand right now, I'm constantly anxious and thinking that I'm one of the first people they will fire. I'm worried this disease will ruin my job prospects and I'm afraid to lose my job" (Participant 11).
- Complications in social interactions
Another important extracted category is complications in social interactions. The families of the deceased stated that COVID-19 has caused so much terror in societies and affected the interactions of the uninfected, too. In the current situation, people are terrified of interacting with the families of COVID-19 victims and would rather stay away from them. Persistence of this behavior will subject the bereaved families to serious psychological crises.
"My mother died because she had the coronavirus. Even though we were quarantined and it was determined that we weren't infected, people still keep away from us. They wouldn't walk within 10 feet of us; they don't even talk to us. My little brother was in the yard yesterday watching the other kids in our building from afar. Those kids wouldn't even talk to him. If this kind of behavior continues for a long time, my brother is going to get depressed and may suffer different psychological disorders" (Participant 16).
- Difficult financial conditions
The participants pointed out that the death of their loved ones, especially fathers, as a result of COVID-19 has threatened the financial status of their families and that they were expecting financial difficulty in earning a livelihood and continuing their education.
"Our financial situation is not good. We're from the low social class. After my husband's death,our financial situation got even worse. In the past four months, we've been living on the savings we'd set aside for our daughter's college education. I don't know what we should do now. It's not easy at all to find a job either. Stores and factories don't hire new workers. I really don't know what to do, how to make a living, or how to get the money to send my daughter to college. All this financial pressure is distressing to me" (Participant 10).