Autistic people often struggle with social communication and interaction and tend to prefer routines or repetitive, idiosyncratic patterns of behavior and activities (American Psychiatric Association [APA], 2022). Their struggles with social interactions can lead to problems in their social integration (Howlin & Goode, 1998) and increase the risk for mental health difficulties (Bauminger & Kasari, 2000). Subsequently, that can create adverse outcomes for their parents, who might struggle with their children’s challenging behavior and worry about their future (Bonis & Sawin, 2016). At the same time, parents’ mental health was found to interfere with the parent-child relationship (Hickey et al., 2020) and possibly affect children’s socio-emotional skills and autism characteristics (Greenberg et al., 2006). Thus, autistic children’s reduced socio-emotional skills and increased behavioral problems, parent’s mental health, and the parent-child relationship might underlie a spiraling interrelation that can cause detrimental effects for both children and their parents.
Parent mental health in autism
In addition to the general challenges and pleasures of parenthood, parents[i] of autistic children tend to face additional demands, often experiencing significantly more adverse psychological and physiological outcomes compared to parents of neurotypical children (Allik et al., 2006; Baker-Ericzén et al., 2005; Hayes & Watson, 2013; Montes & Halterman, 2007) or to parents of children with other developmental conditions, such as cognitive developmental delay (Mugno et al., 2007; Weiss, 2002), down syndrome (Dabrowska & Pisula, 2010; Rodrigue et al., 1990), cerebral palsy (Mugno et al., 2007), or general long-term health condition or disability (Seymour et al., 2017).
An integrative literature review has identified numerous factors contributing to parental distress in the context of autism (Bonis & Sawin, 2016). Highlighted factors included child-related aspects, such as hypersensitivity or hyposensitivity to sensory stimuli and related reactive behaviors, disrupted sleep patterns, restrictive eating preferences, and aggressive, destructive, or self-harming behaviors. Furthermore, context-related aspects were emphasized, including limited access to healthcare, social stigmatization, financial strain, parental fatigue, social isolation, and a lack of capacity for self-care among parents. Worry over the child’s life trajectory, social inclusion, and future safety and care were also highlighted.
In contrast, prosocial behavior in children, higher educational levels of parents, psychological acceptance and positive perceptions, and parenting beliefs were found to be protective factors. Adaptive coping, self-efficacy, and social support by family members, friends, and a wider community constitute additional protective factors for parental adaptation and consequent psychological well-being (Allik et al., 2006; Bonis & Sawin, 2016; Costa et al., 2017; Higgins et al., 2023; Porter et al., 2022; Schiltz et al., 2018; Weiss et al., 2012).
Nonetheless, risks outweighed protective factors for stress management in parents (Bonis & Sawin, 2016). Consequently, parents of autistic children present repeatedly increased prevalence of stress, depression, anxiety, somatic complaints, and burnout (Lecavalier et al., 2005; Stewart et al., 2017; Weiss, 2002). In addition, autism is for some part linked to genetics (Gaugler et al. 2014) and some parents of autistic children present social tendencies that are similar to autism, called broader autism phenotype [BAP] (Bolton et al. 1994). BAP has been linked to increased depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and reduced cognitive and executive functioning (Gerdts and Bernier 2011; Sucksmith et al. 2011). Consequently, parents of autistic children, especially fathers (Rubenstein & Chawla, 2018), might experience additional mental health challenges linked to their own autistic tendencies.
Parent mental health and the parent-child relationship
The scientific literature on the mental health of parents and parent-child relationships in families with autistic children is scarce and ambiguous. For instance, a study by Hickey et al. (2020) found that parenting stress and depressive symptoms in mothers of autistic children predicted reduced warmth and increased criticism a year later. Fathers’ parenting stress also predicted higher levels of criticism toward their children over time. Similarly, mindful parenting practices, such as maintaining a calm, present-focused mindset, enhanced maternal parenting satisfaction and improved overall interactions with their children (Singh et al., 2006). However, Baker et al. (2011) found contradictory results. In their study, the quality of the mother-child relationship was not significantly affected by variations in the mothers’ depressive symptoms or the children’s behavior problems. It was suggested that considering factors like self-efficacy or parenting stress might have led to different conclusions.
When comparing mothers of autistic children to those of neurotypical children, the results are equally mixed. Mothers of autistic children were found to report more closeness with their children despite increased stress and lower quality of communication (Montes & Haltermann, 2007). Conversely, Hoffman et al. (2009) found no significant difference between the two groups of mothers in terms of emotional closeness. They proposed that a child’s autism diagnosis might serve as a protective factor in the parent-child relationship, as parents may attribute less responsibility to the child for problematic behavior. In support of this hypothesis, Montes and Haltermann (2007) found that parents of autistic children were less likely to express anger toward their children, even though they reported being bothered by their children’s behavior. However, this protective factor may come at a cost, as parents may internalize blame for their children’s misbehavior, potentially leading to reduced parenting efficacy and overall well-being (Hoffman et al., 2009).
Research involving neurotypical families is also somewhat ambiguous. In a longitudinal study covering the early years of childhood, fathers who reported increased depressive symptomatology indicated a poorer father-infant relationship, lower romantic relationship satisfaction, and poorer child development outcomes (Nicolaus et al., 2021). However, in a study including 545 mothers, prenatal anxiety was linked to more perceived bonding difficulties but not to a poorer researcher-observed mother-infant interaction quality (Nath et al., 2019). Interestingly, two large-scale longitudinal studies found a significant association between prenatal maternal mental health problems and prenatal family adversity. These latter two related significantly to overall mental health problems in children to a later time, which, in turn, were significantly related to an unstable family structure and family dysfunction (Lereya et al., 2015).
In summary, the findings on the relationship between parent psychological well-being and parent-child relationships in families are relatively ambiguous, and findings seem to greatly depend on the etymology and methodology of studies.
Parent-child relationship and children’s socio-emotional skills
While social skills are contingent on genetic predispositions and developmental change, they are malleable and can be taught, as they are context- and situation-specific. Thus, it is not surprising that parents’ interaction with their children can play a decisive role in children’s development of socio-emotional skills. The scientific literature on this topic in the context of autism is scarce. However, some findings propose interesting results that align with research on neurotypical people. For instance, emotional support from parents and parent-child cohesiveness have been positively associated with enhanced social abilities in autistic children (Haven et al., 2014). Furthermore, parent-child cohesiveness has been found to mediate the relationship between children’s autism diagnosis and their social skills, effectively mitigating some of the associated challenges. Consistent with these findings, stronger synchronization and attunement between parents and children have been linked to better joint attention over time, with these effects repeatedly observed up to 16 years later (Siller & Sigman, 2002).
More intimate mother-child relationships have also been associated with superior peer friendships, regardless of the developmental level of autistic children (Bauminger et al., 2010). Additionally, maternal warmth and high-quality relationships between mothers and their children have been linked to reduced subsequent internalizing and externalizing behavior, improved abilities for social reciprocity, and reduced repetitive behaviors (Smith et al., 2008). Conversely, high levels of maternal criticism and or emotional overinvolvement were found to lead to increased maladaptive behaviors and more salient autism characteristics over time (Greenberg et al., 2006). The found effects were particularly strong for externalizing, internalizing, impaired reciprocal social interactions, and asocial behaviors, with criticism being a key driver.
Interestingly, nonverbal communication, including body language, gestures, and headshaking, did not yield a significant relationship with either criticism or overinvolvement. Additionally, mothers exhibited lower levels of criticism and overinvolvement with sons compared to daughters or in the presence of co-occurring cognitive developmental delay. Mothers also expressed less criticism or overinvolvement when their children displayed higher levels of internalizing maladaptive behavior, such as inattention, emotional disengagement, or self-injury. It was hypothesized that this might indicate reciprocal emotional disengagement. In contrast, parenting practices emphasizing mindfulness, such as maintaining a calm and present-focused mindset, have been associated with improved behavioral outcomes in autistic children (Singh et al., 2006). These practices may help reduce non-cooperation, aggressive behavior, and self-injury, highlighting the importance of parental approaches in supporting children to develop appropriate socio-emotional skills.
Socio-emotional skills and autism
Diagnostic criteria for autism include social communication difficulties and repetitive, idiosyncratic behavior patterns across contexts, so that autistic and neurotypical people tend to differ in their overall way of communication, interaction, and behavior (APA, 2022). Socialization difficulties can create significant detriments for autistic people in their academic and professional careers (Howlin & Goode, 1998), as well as psychological well-being (Myles, 2003; Tantam, 2003), irrespective of their cognitive and language skills (Carter et al., 2005). In general, autistic children are at greater risk for social exclusion than their neurotypical (Chamberlain et al., 2007; Humphrey & Lewis, 2008; Maïano et al., 2016; Schroeder et al., 2014) and otherwise neurodiverse peers (Humphrey & Hebron, 2015; Sreckovic et al., 2014). Thus, it is not surprising that, compared to neurotypicals, autistic adolescents report experiencing more loneliness and less social support and express a greater desire for peer social interaction (Bauminger & Kasari, 2000). As they grow up, autistic people may experience significant distress as social relationships and interactions tend to become more complex, and they might gain greater awareness of their challenges (Tantam, 2003). Accordingly, autistic adults have very limited relationships (Howlin et al., 2004). In a study by Howlin et al. (2013), 66% of the autistic participants stated that they never had any peer relationships for activities outside the home. Furthermore, 77% of the autistic participants reported that they had never had a reciprocal, close, and intimate friendship or relationship lasting more than a month or any such friendship or relationship at all.
The present study
Parents of autistic children are at an increased risk for mental health issues in comparison to parents of neurotypical or other neurodiverse children (e.g., Bonis & Sawin, 2016). Their mental health issues put them at additional risk for parenting stress, which might decrease parenting self-efficacy. In turn, reduced parenting self-efficacy was found to account for increased anxiety and depression symptoms in mothers, further increasing their risk for psychopathology (Rezendes & Scarpa, 2011). So far, autism research has not come to a consensus on whether parents’ weaker mental health relates to differences in their relationship with their children. Some found that parenting stress and parents’ depressive symptoms predicted reduced warmth and increased criticism over time (Hickey et al., 2020). Others found that the quality of the mother-child relationship was not related to mothers’ depressive symptoms (Baker et al., 2011). In addition, their results also showed no significant relationship between parent-child relationships and children’s behavior problems (Baker et al., 2011). However, these results are in contradiction with findings with neurotypical people (e.g., Eisenberg et al., 1998) and with autistic people (e.g., Greenberg et al., 2006; Haven et al., 2014), which repeatedly emphasize the importance of parent-child interactions for the development of social skills. These findings are of specific significance when considering that autistic people have persistent difficulties in social communication and social interaction (APA, 2022), which are associated with significant adverse outcomes for autistic people (e.g., Howlin et al., 2013; Van Heijst & Geurts, 2014). Then again, children’s difficulties with socio-emotional abilities and related problem behaviors have been associated with reduced parent mental health. In turn, prosocial behavior was found to constitute a protective factor for mental health outcomes in parents (Bonis & Sawin, 2019; Higgins et al., 2023). Overall, findings on the relations between parent mental health, parent-child relationships, and socio-emotional skills of autistic children are limited and tend to be inconclusive, if not even contradictory.
Consequently, we aim to extend the understanding of the complex interplay between autistic children’s socio-emotional skills, the parent-child relationship, and parent mental health. In line with previous literature, we hypothesize that (1) parents of autistic children have increased mental health difficulties than parents of neurotypical children. Similarly, we expect that (2) autistic children have reduced socio-emotional abilities and more behavioral problems than neurotypical children. Based on findings from neurotypical research and little research with autistic people, we further hypothesize that (3.1) children’s reduced socio-emotional skills, poor parent mental health, and more conflictual parent-child relationships interrelate with each other and that (3.2) these interrelations are more salient for families with an autistic child. Furthermore, we hypothesize that (4) better parent mental health and children’s superior socio-emotional skills are associated with closer parent-child relationships.
[i] The terminologies parent and parents are used in this study to refer to children’s biological parents, but also non-biological parents, caregivers, guardians, and other people responsible for the upbringing of the child in daily life.