The analysis revealed four main categories: confidence, information, competence and collaboration, which affected parents’ experiences of the encounter with CHC, CAP and CYH providers. Consistent across all four themes was the importance of time, i.e. the parents’ experiences of how the process of getting help and support was constantly delayed (Figure 2).
Time passes
A major feature of importance was the time aspect, which permeates all parts of the process. The parents expected quick feedback relating to the promised care guarantee, and when this was not forthcoming it created great frustration and anxiety.
Yes, it’s like you have a guarantee of 90 days and then you should be contacted, but then it’s almost just a registration. You get there, get enrolled and then you have to wait another eighteen months for an investigation. I think I collapsed when I discovered there are a lot of people in line….so much waiting. (FG 3)
“The hardest part was probably like the time between, the wait before the investigation I thought was the worst. You didn’t know what to expect”:::// “It took almost two years and we hadn’t expected that. It was really tough!”// “The uncertainty makes you almost a horrible person, I feel. But I somehow needed to vent, get someone to bark at and blame.” (FG 1)
Parents felt that the delay in starting an investigation for their child, despite their expressed concerns, could lead to serious consequences for the child.
With M, it didn’t become an acute situation until he went to preschool class. We’d tried to stop him from starting preschool class via CHC and had met paediatricians at CHC with whom we had a very long conversation. And they thought it was nothing because they had done, yes, we don’t know what they really did in preschool, but they did some kind of investigation /---/ and it came to the conclusion that it was nothing. / …… / the consequence was that M had to go to preschool class, which was terrible for him because then he went a year and it was set that he would start first class and /…./ he didn’t because it didn’t work . /…./ He was very sad, he was completely devastated and felt cheated. /…./ And then we think that it’s taken so long, we raised this seven years ago. /…./ (FG 4)
/…/ you as a parent want it to have happened yesterday. It’s all about children’s development. As long as we don’t receive that help, his development will stand still. (FG 4)
Confidence
Feeling trust and security was crucial for the parents’ experiences of treatment in the encounter with child healthcare. Confirmation of the parents’ concerns by CHC staff, as well as support for the child and parents, were described as decisive for how the encounter was experienced. In several cases, parents described how the CHC nurse had not taken them seriously when they expressed their concern that their child was not developing normally. The parents also described how CHC staff have difficulty seeing the whole picture surrounding the child, and that they seemed more interested in weight and height growth curves. The assurance that everything was normal only created more anxiety, frustration and loneliness for the parents. In addition, it was difficult to get a referral to the CAP for further assessment.
“… it was this feeling that something wasn’t right. It was this way with his language, his gaze, he could sit for hours in one place while my other children were everywhere in the house, and I said that.” // “You’ve had such mischievous children, so you’re not used to it.” // “When I spoke, it felt like they thought I was imagining it and it felt like they wanted to calm me down.” (FG 1)
In opposition to their desire for confirmation that their child was in need of extra support and further investigation, some parents experienced that CHC staff wanted to avoid stigmatising the child by not contributing to diagnosing deviant behaviour. Some parents felt that their fear was also reflected in more anxiety in their child. Those parents who experienced that their concerns were taken seriously in the encounter with CHC felt more secure and calmer, even later in the process when their child was referred and examined by CAP.
Most parents experienced loneliness in their situation. They expressed a need to find support from other parents in similar situations to share feelings, thoughts and experiences of having a child with developmental neurological problems and/or cognitive difficulties. There was experience from specialist care. Furthermore, participants described feelings of inadequacy and sadness over the fact that parenthood had not turned out as they expected, saying that it felt like being in an unknown world.
“A support group where you can sit, talk and vent everything. Find what you’re looking for ...” // “ ... we were looking for other people who had it like us. You’re very lonely and searching.” (FG 2)
Information
The parents expressed a desire for more consistent, structured and useful information, planning, feedback and available support, especially in the early stages. Information about planning was related to expectations of quick feedback and that the process would start immediately. They requested hints about where to find information and how to get in contact with support groups. They related the lack of information to feelings of shuttling between hope and despair, and expressed a desire to have someone to turn to with questions, which would have made the uncertainty they experienced easier to deal with. One option was to search for information on the internet or via other social forums in order to understand and manage the situation. There were suggestions to provide an online flow chart of the care process for a preschool child from CHC to a specialist, and where exactly their child was in that flow. Most of the parents expressed dissatisfaction with the parental education offered, as it did not meet their expectations. A majority of the parents in the focus groups did not have Swedish as their first language and thought that it was difficult when interpreters were included in parental training. It became difficult, disruptive and time-consuming.
The parents experienced frustration and irritation when the professionals were not prepared and felt that their contribution about the child was decisive for the diagnosis created. “I’ve been so upset about the investigation process, it feels like I have to diagnose my own children” (FG 1).
Once a diagnosis was established, the parents experienced a significant improvement in the provision of information and a more structured follow-up and support, especially in contact with CYH.
After the diagnosis, you were very well taken care of by the habilitation. At the habilitation, I thought you felt you could breathe out and you got the information you needed. (FG 3)
Competence
Differences in competence could occur, depending on which childcare provider the parents had been in contact with. The parents expressed this in terms of lack of professional knowledge and experience, with CHC and preschool staff being particularly criticised.
“We picked it up very early on at CHC, but they don’t listen there. I feel that it’s a question of competence”….//…“Now that his investigation is complete, he has a pretty serious problem, so I can easily think that it’s a question of competence. That those at CHC and those at preschool don’t have the competence to see this.” (FG 3)
The parents also experienced a lack of resources within CHC. for example: “Had there been more psychologists who could have done investigations, they would have come closer faster and received help” (FG 2). Not being believed and being given the same advice over and over again caused feelings of powerlessness and doubts about their parenting ability and perception of their child, especially for first-time parents. “When you’re constantly told that everything is normal, in the end you don’t believe that what you yourself are experiencing is really true” (FG 2).
Collaboration
The parents described a lack of collaboration between different healthcare providers, which forced them to take responsibility themselves, and to control and act as a coordinator within the care system. The feeling that they themselves had to take responsibility to inform the preschool/school, or to mediate contact between organisations, was perceived as stressful. Furthermore, they described experiences of preschool/school attendees declining invitations that came from parents. “We sometimes say [that we’re] the liaison centre. That’s the way it is, because you have to keep all the balls in the air” (FG 3).
The parents also described difficulties in achieving a functioning collaboration, due to different organisations for CHC, the preschool/school, CAP and CYH, and said that current legislation means that collaboration can only take place with the parents’ consent. This caused concern that children were not receiving the help and support required for them to have the opportunity to develop and meet their knowledge goals. The fear that something about their child would be missed led to parents feeling the need to have control over everything that concerned their child’s existence.
Another difficulty is that the support offered to children and their parents is not equal, but depends entirely on where the family lives. The experience of being forced to take control over everything around their child created a lot of stress for all the parents. The participants described having difficulty letting go of control and trusting that the staff would do what was required in the situation their child was facing.
An exception was the contact with CYH, which was perceived as positive and providing more cohesive care, involving an approach that included a holistic view of the child’s needs.
The habilitation has been gold for us there, I think you can breathe a sigh of relief. You meet with respect, people who listen and have experience. Absolutely great security, I would say, where the needs are, the help you get. (FG 2)
You should try to keep everything together because we’ve changed staff, changed in preschool class, first, second and now third as well, so we start every single year with new staff and then you have to pull everything together over and over again. You would like to have only one person with whom you would have contact. (FG 3)
In addition, parents experienced that collaboration between CAP and school was affected by who sent the invitation.
CAP sends the application for education directly to the school and to us /…./ it’s not us who convey that contact or that information, but CAP does. (FG 2)
/…./ I invited the school, then I asked the assistant why they didn’t come, the assistant said that the principal wanted her to take time off instead. (FG 1)
I think it’s easier for the school to say no if the invitation comes from a parent than if the invitation comes from the habilitation. (FG 3)
As a result of the constant experience of having to control everything around their child, some parents described having developed a mental illness, which led to long sick leave, with financial consequences for the family.