As a part of everyday life in marriage migration, the immigrant Thai women reported 438 critical health incidents which were clustered into psychological, sociocultural, physiological, developmental, and spiritual health dilemmas with related consequences (Table 2).
Psychological health dilemmas
The psychological health dilemmas were divided into seven subcategories: emotional abuse by the spouse (66), being overloaded with family responsibilities in both countries (34),
leaving family behind (30), leaving unpaid debts behind (22), excessive gambling and resulting economic debts (6), being thrown out of one’s home (11), and being left by a spouse (9).
These critical health incidents included women facing emotional pressure including emotional violence such as being kicked out of their home or being forced to go through with a divorce. These situations contributed to loss of human value due to lack of influence and insecurity connected to survival in the new country. Being left by the spouse caused psychological ill-health both in the short and long term, as not only had love and trust gone, but the women had also been abandoned with no money. This affected their personal and transnational responsibilities. Nonetheless none of the Thai interviewees deliberated returning to Thailand because of the risk of losing face.
“…Losing him who I [we] love is to alter my life forever. He destroyed family when he left us [me and our daughters]. I was losing, I didn’t know how I can tell my daughters…I can’t tell people, lose face, lose pride [tearful] it looked like I am dying” (C-19).
As the interviewed women described, these critical incidents included the loss of pride and the guilt they experienced of not being able to economically support and be there for their families in Thailand. These additional critical health incidents might also include difficult family relationships in Sweden or in some cases Thailand which caused a lot of worries and psychological strain.
“…I feel I have nowhere to turn and the combination of lack of money, the guilt of leaving my family behind, along with not helping my family is overwhelming” (C-29).
Some women saw no possibility but to risk their money in gambling, in the hope of getting extra money, but excessive gambling resulted in debts. Experiences of emotional violence and exploitation both verbal and non-verbal increased women’s loss of self-confidence.
Sociocultural health dilemma
The women described sociocultural health dilemmas which were identified in five subcategories: continuing transnational duties (34), caring and attention for Swedish stepchildren and Thai children (27), refraining from transnational duties (19), caring for Swedish husbands (18), and betrayed by Thai friends and deceived into human trafficking (8).
The Thai support that some women received from ‘friends’ in Sweden, who they believed were trustworthy was a critical health incident experienced as being connected to sociocultural health dilemmas. The interviewed women experienced disappointment when they placed too much faith in Thai people’s support. Some women paid their so-called friends to plan, organize and contact Swedish males who would guarantee marriage and a possible job, e.g., the opportunity of living in Sweden.
“My Thai friend and her Swedish husband introduced me to many Swedish men… they came to see me. I felt awkward and bad, but my Thai friend said, ‘it’s nature [you need only one Swedish male who helps you to live here]” (C-24).
These new connections were often provided by Thai women and their Western husbands. They could be recognised as human trafficking and gave the women even less security in their new country, those that should be trusted could not be trusted. Rage also accompanied these critical health situations when being betrayed by women from your own country.
The interviewed women also experienced critical health incidents connected to sociocultural health while dealing with their older Swedish husbands who were sick and needed daily care or when caring for Swedish stepchildren and Swedish relatives as these types of family responsibilities were part of Thai marriage migration. Enormous demands from their new family were described when fulfilling family responsibilities. Others talked about how the transnational responsibilities in Thailand from children, family and relatives forced them to seek extra work to earn enough money to send back. Constant work affected the women’s health, and they experienced exhaustion, strain, and fatigue. Even if the woman did not provide transnational help, she felt bad because this was expected from her home country.
The interviewed women said that Thai family and relatives assumed that being married to a Swedish man meant being wealthy. When interviewees received accusations from their Thai families and relatives, they were left feeling hurt, upset, sad, embarrassed as if they had let the family down.
Physiological health dilemmas
In this main area 54 critical health incidents affecting physiological health were identified in five subcategories: environmental accidents (16), domestic work accidents (14), being beaten by the spouse who had excessive drinking (12), employed work accidents (6), and being beaten by the other (6). The physiological health dilemmas sustained by ‘accidents’ often resulted in the woman giving up work for an extended time and some continued being unable to work altogether.
“...I slipped on the wet floor, hurting my coccyx and my back. The doctor diagnosed a lumbar injury and the resulting pain in my back was terribly painful [...]. I could not work, no money to send to my mother and kids…just lying-in bed [...]” (C-21).
The women described how unpredictable ‘accidents’ increased the economic strain for them and made their immigrant lives even more difficult. The women were victims of intimate partner violence (IPV) or work overload, both at home and in paid work. A few drank too much alcohol and ended up in accidents and fights. The women kept silence about the causes of these so-called accidents which only increased their bad health situation as well as hindered relevant health treatment.
“We had problems for many years, constantly arguing. He hit me when he was drunk [...] I did not tell the police or anyone because I am illiterate and I needed his support also I loved him, and I didn’t want to lose my family... I was embarrassed, I took sick leave, stayed away from people and the doctor. I hid away and healed myself. I was extremely stressed, unable to sleep...” (C-1).
Some of the women used health care services, but others did not as they felt too ashamed and refrained from showing their physiological injuries even to a nurse or physician. They often resorted to their native upbringing instead and tried to heal themselves with Thai herbs.
Developmental health dilemmas
The interviewed women described developmental health dilemmas that were divided into four subcategories of critical health incidents: facing the process of becoming older / adapted to ageing (18), having a serious disease (12), caring for the ageing and older husband (10), and facing threatening situations such as no longer being able to handle a wife’s duties (4).
Associated to wife’s responsibilities, some interviewees also described the monotony of being a caregiver of the older and ageing husband and fear of the Swedish husband dying and being left alone leading to developmental ill-health and detrimental insecurity of the future to come. These interviewed Thai women were precluded from work and pre-existing health problems worsened due to age.
“I am now 59 with diseases [diabetes and hypertension], 25 years living here with basic Swedish language skills and no English. I can’t explain to Swedish health professionals when I get sick. Shameful, isn't it? [...]. My Swedish spouse had a stroke, and he is gone [died]. I have no kids and no relatives, so I leave my life with luck and Buddha [voice full of sadness]” (C-38).
The Thai women explained that leaving their older Swedish husbands was not an option because of gratitude and fear of karma in the future or next life. Buddhist belief in karma made their existing life expectancy and transnational responsibilities hard to bear. Marriage life also became complicated by other wives wanting to replace them due to age. Power and strength were lost based on the ageing process and recognising one’s ageing, health issues and inability to work due to cancer, heart disease, stroke, hypertension, diabetes mellitus and so on.
“I am unable to read or write so I work as a cleaning lady [...] My Thai son [autistic] and now I have been diagnosed with cancer thinking about what will be happen if something happens to me [...] Can my son survive? Can my son live with his Swedish stepfather? I have these questions around my head every night before I fall asleep” (C-20).
The interviewed women described several critical health incidents identified in the process of becoming older and developing poor health. The most important factor for their developmental health was how to adapt to the process of ageing. The Thai women interviewees all said that they knew when bad luck or bad things happen in their lives in Sweden, it is important to be patient and face those events.
Spiritual health dilemmas
The three subcategories of critical health incidents interpreted as the spiritual health dilemmas were: praying for lessening previous bad karma (38), worshiping holy things (11), and talking to a fortune-teller and a monk (7).
Spiritual health dilemmas affected the interviewed women’s lives and health when spirituality was experienced as their only salvation from life’s difficulties. These interviewees described spiritual and magical resources as giving hope when faced by any negative event in life including bad health of different kinds. Therefore, spirituality was described as their main health resource. These women explained that it was hard to trust people Thai or others. In critical health incidents such as when losing a husband and losing face or when being left by their Swedish spouse and being replaced by another woman, spirituality and faith were what, according to them, was left. This leads to acceptance rather than a changed health situation.
“My husband asked for me for a divorce. I was angry. I had lost everything. I felt suicidal and wanted to kill both my ex and his new girlfriend [...]. I met a monk and fortune-teller who explained that because in a previous life I had hurt them [...] bad karma followed me, I should pray with holy items, then my stress and bad luck would vanish” (C-34).
Some of the interviewed women, often without schooling, interpreted all critical incidents in life, health related or not, to be treatable by spiritual and religious behaviours rather than turning to social or professional health and welfare. These women did not know what they could ask for related to health care and welfare support. This was partly due to poor language skills and being unable to communicate what they required, and partly due to social isolation. One of the interviewed women described how she resorted to spiritual beliefs in times of ill-health and how she understood that her recovery depended on her spiritual behaviour.
Consequently, these spiritual and religious practices were not always accepted by Swedish spouses, and for some of the women their conviction led to relational conflicts when continuing to perform spiritual practices in Sweden. Nevertheless, these women illuminated how spirituality was deeply rooted in their background and in health.