We interviewed 24 family members. Demographic information and relevant patient data is presented in table 2.
Table 2: characteristics of family members (participants) and the patients
Characteristics of family members (participants) n=24
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Mean age in years (range)
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62 (32-75)
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Gender
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8 male, 16 female
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Relationship to the patient
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3 partners, 19 children, 2 others (cousin, sister)
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Ethnicity
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All British white
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Occupation
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13 retired from work, 11 still working
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Characteristics of patients (n=24)
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Mean age in years (range)
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85 (55-101)
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Gender
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7 male, 17 female
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Occupation
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22 retired, 2 working
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Functional status prior to the stroke
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11 independent, 13 required care (either a package of care at home or in a care home)
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First stroke
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23
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Had community do not resuscitate order (DNAR)
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7
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Had pre-existing major comorbidities including dementia, heart failure and renal failure
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11
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Family members’ decision-making regarding treatments on behalf of the patient admitted with major stroke lay on a spectrum. At one extreme, family members (the majority) described deciding not to initiate treatments from the outset. In the middle of the treatment decision-making spectrum, were family members who initially asked for all treatments to continue but later decided that life-extending treatments were no longer appropriate. At the other end of the spectrum were family members who wanted all treatments to continue at all costs.
Below, we will consider the factors determining these different decision-making approaches. We will then explore how the different approaches adopted by family members seemed to influence their early experiences in hospital, and their accompanying information and support needs. Where possible, we will report our findings based on where family members were on the treatment decision-making spectrum we have identified.
Reflecting on patients’ health pre-stroke, and preferences for life-extending treatments
Family members who had decided not to initiate life-extending treatments
Family members at one end of the treatment decision-making spectrum described how the patient who had been admitted to hospital, many of whom in their eighties or nineties, already had chronic progressive conditions (e.g., dementia and arthritis) prior to their stroke. They described how, over the years, these conditions had resulted in gradual decline in their health and quality of life. Hence, family members noted how these patients had not been fully independent prior to stroke and how some had either lived in a care home or had been reliant on others for aspects of their care, such as washing and dressing. Family members further noted how this dependence on others had been a source of frustration and distress to the patient.
For example, Paul, the son of a woman in her nineties noted how his mother had various chronic medical conditions including arthritis and heart disease, and although she had lived at home, she had needed carers to come in four times a day. He also described how her dependency on others had led to her being unhappy with her life and extremely low in mood:
‘She’s depressed… every time I go up she’ll say to me I don’t want to be here, [name removed]. I seem to get it every week In fact...... she had said to me I love you but I want you to put the pillow over my head...’ (Paul)
According to these family members, which included Paul and Imogen (who is quoted below), patients’ increasing frailty and dependence on others had meant that, in many cases, they had indicated their preference, either to their family or their doctor, for not wanting their already poor quality of life to be extended:
‘Well, my mother has been very unwell for the last nine months now. She had caecal carcinoma, so we have been involved with the hospital for a long time. So, we have had all the discussion about, what interventions she would want, so...I was in no doubt about what she wanted, which is not much.’ (Imogen)
Many of these family members also reported how the patient had thought ahead to a circumstance where a decision might need to be taken regarding resuscitation:
‘Mum already has a DNR in place. She’s a very strong woman.. She knew...well told us this is what...if it comes to a point where all the numbers stack up against her, and she finds herself requiring a DNR, which she wants, that would be the line to take. Do not resuscitate’. (David)
Family members who had decided to withdraw life-extending treatments over time
Family members who were in the middle of the treatment decision-making spectrum described how, although the patient had generally been quite old (late seventies or early eighties), they had been determined and able to maintain moderately independent lives. This included Moira who described how her husband, in his eighties, had continued to lead a busy and active life right up to his stroke:
‘When we got to 80, and [name removed] said he retired; well, he continued to work whenever he got the chance – he couldn’t retire – and what he’s done since he was 80 is he’s chopped wood and split logs…and even on Sunday, the day before this, he was working splitting logs. So he was very, very active and very strong’. (Moira)
Colin, likewise, described how his father had been a very determined man and, despite having had multiple health problems and hospital admissions, had only needed minimal help to live independently:
‘Well, he’s physically very strong, mentally very strong and he’s had things before which he’s come back from, in the hospital, heart attacks and quadruple bypass surgery and so on and he’s quite tenacious about life in general. We just do some shopping and cleaning for him.’ (Colin)
In keeping with their relative independence, family members noted how they felt that the patient had not generally thought about a circumstance where they may be left significantly disabled in any meaningful way. Hence, as Martha, the daughter of a woman in her eighties noted, any comments the patient had previously made which had alluded to treatment preferences could not necessarily be interpreted as their true preferences, because they felt that these individuals had not properly considered a future situation of critical illness and/or significant disability:
‘Her friend had a stroke and went into a home…and that allowed me to introduce the subject of what would you like to do in the long term if you weren't able to live in your own home? And her response was, oh, I've never really thought about it. But well, if I couldn't stay in my own home I'd probably want to come and live with you. But I said that won’t be possible as I work full time, and she says ‘oh well, I’d go to a home then.’(Martha)
Family members who had asked for all treatments to continue at all costs
The minority of family members at the other end of the treatment decision-making spectrum reported how the patient had been relatively young and independent prior to their admission. Hence, family members reported that they did not feel that these individuals had considered a situation of critical illness and, therefore, they were not aware of them having articulated their own wishes for treatments in a situation where they might be left significantly disabled. This included Jenna the stepdaughter of a man in his 50s:
’Not really something that he would speak about; like, we like to get away every now and again, sort of, just we go camping and stuff like this; we’ll walk at weekends. It’s not really something that he…I don’t think he’s thought about the, sort of, long term’. (Jenna)
Early hospital experiences and accompanying needs
Family members who had decided not to initiate life-extending treatments
Family members of patients who had already been physically dependent before the stroke, described how these patients had had multiple previous hospital admissions and therefore, how these previous experiences had made it easier for them to understand and accept that the patients’ prognosis might be very poor. For instance, Susan, the daughter of a woman in her nineties who had had a previous stroke, described how she was familiar with being in hospital and was accepting of the fact that her mother was very unwell and might not survive:
‘I mean, we kind of predicted that this was maybe the way it was going to go with this second stroke Mum’s had, the second time she’s been here; so there’s a bit of history, so it’s easier for all of us to understand the predicament we’re in’. (Susan)
Given these experiences, and their confidence in knowing what the patient would have wanted with respect to life-extending treatments, these family members reported how they had determined that initiating such treatments would not be in the patient’s best interests. This included Murray who described how he had considered his mother’s preferences and had concluded that the situation his mum was now in (significantly disabled and requiring 24 hour care) would not be the kind of life she would want to endure:
‘She said she did not want people looking after her and I think the point with Mum’s situation is that massive stroke – it’s unlikely she will recover from it. If she does recover …she’s going to need full-time care, so that’s…for Mum that’s not an option; she wouldn’t want that.’ (Murray)
These family members thus described how they had already decided not to initiate life-extending treatments even before the doctor had provided their opinion on the patient’s prognosis. Hence, as Linda, the daughter of a woman in her eighties, described, a discussion with the doctor was often used to justify a decision that had already been made, rather than to arrive at a decision:
‘So, we've (referring to Linda, her mother and family) been very open about it and feel very strongly that no prolonging of life, given the quality of life that she has. So, that was the conversation I had with the consultant and it was rather nice and refreshing that he was very open to listening and in total agreement with that, and also being quite honest as to the implications of the stroke, in terms of swallowing and the options, and things like that’. (Linda)
Family members who had decided to withdraw life-extending treatments over time
Family members of patients who had been moderately independent and had not formally expressed their preferences for life-extending treatments, described having been shocked and distressed by the diagnosis of a major stroke with poor prognosis. This included Jack who shared his astonishment at how, on the same day as the stroke, his mother had been leading a group tour of a historical site:
‘Especially since she was, you know, completely fit and healthy one day, and, well, the same day, just suddenly, wallop. It was completely…changed her, you know. So, yeah, it was a bit of a shock to the system’. (Jack)
These family members discussed how, because of their shock and distress, and not really knowing what the patient’s preferences were,, they had initially felt that they could not withhold any treatments that might have given them a chance of survival:
‘So after two days of deterioration, so Doctor [name removed], he said, what is your position on treatment and antibiotics; and I didn’t really have…I didn’t feel that I was in a…couldn’t not doing treatment. So I was trying to think about what would [the patient’s name removed] say. She’s really committed to life; so I said, well, I think if you felt it was okay I think [name removed] would want, she wants to get better, she’s not ready to die’. (Lorna)
Having initially asked for all treatments to be given, these family members reported how, over the days which followed this decision and as they got over their initial shock, they had reassessed the situation the patient was in and gathered evidence to make further decisions about (withdrawing) treatments. This included having discussions with family and friends about what the patient might have wanted with respect to treatments and future quality of life:
‘And…initially my view was that because I didn’t have enough medical knowledge, I thought that feeding her and giving her the antibiotics and the other medication, we would start to see an improvement. And, you know, I had a hope…whether it was a forlorn hope or not that the treatment would have an effect. But her condition got worse- I’d spoken to various relatives and various friends of hers and explained the situation and all of them said, oh she wouldn’t want to carry on living like that.’ (Jack)
They also described how such discussions had jogged their memory about situations where the patient had previously made informal comments about life-extending treatments or surviving with disability. They then reported how these remarks had led them to conclude that the patient would not have wanted to have been kept alive by tube feeding or if they needed full-time care. For example, Collete described how her mother had been the main carer for her father who had had a stroke, and had asked that no life-extending treatments be given to him:
‘I don't think she would be very happy to be constantly fed and kept alive with tubes. My father died with a stroke and she said the same thing, your dad wouldn't want this, your dad wouldn't want that, he wouldn't be happy if he couldn't do XY and Z. So she was probably the most calm out of the whole family when my father died.’ (Collete)
Many also described how, when they were visiting the patient in hospital, they had observed them making gestures, such as removing oxygen masks and feeding tubes, which they interpreted as them wanting to reject these treatments:
‘I think a lot of it was informed by the fact that she kept taking the feeding tubes out … And…just other signs. I mean, as her son, I know her facial expressions. And I just got the impression looking at her that she really wasn’t happy in the situation that she was in. She’d had enough and she wanted it come to an end. She wouldn’t want to be in a care home lying there, you know, effectively unable to do anything. And I think she was telling us that by removing the feeding tube and…she’s telling us again by removing the oxygen’. (Jack)
While reflecting on the situation, and realising that the patient might not survive the stroke, many of these family members described how they had moved away from their initial hope that the patient would recover to a more pragmatic approach of looking for potentially realistic information from the doctor on the patient’s likely (poor) prognosis. They then described how they used this information to decide on the appropriateness of (withdrawing) various life-extending treatments:
‘Well each time a decision came along, I sat down with either Dr [name removed] or Dr [name removed] in the main and the main decision was on feeding and whether they should persist with it. So…yeah, I was given information. I asked them questions. We came to a judgment...’ (Jack)
Although these family members described how, having reflected on the situation, they had decided that withdrawing treatments had been appropriate, they also noted how this process of decision-making (and treatment withdrawal) had been very upsetting for them. Some expressed how formal psychological support from hospital staff might have been helpful to them during this distressing time:
‘You know, this is hard, very tough… some, kind of, counselling service available, preferably with people with some medical knowledge’. (Jack)
Family members who had asked for all treatments to continue at all costs
The minority of family members, where patients had been young and independent before the stroke, described how they had felt shocked, overwhelmed and emotionally unprepared for the situation they now found themselves in. For example, Andrea, the daughter of a previously independent woman in her sixties, described how she and her father had felt helpless and extremely distressed seeing her mother in hospital in a physically dependent and agitated state:
‘I saw my mum, my dad was in shock basically. It was quite upsetting to see her being sick and she looked like she was not comfortable. It just felt yesterday nobody was helping her to try and get this bleed under control and trying to get my mum back. So it’s, kind of, upsetting [sounding upset].’ (Andrea)
These family members expressed how, while feeling extremely distressed, they had looked for ways to maintain hope that the patient would survive. For example, Andrea described how she thought back to instances in the past where her mother, based on her determination to improve, had recovered well from minor illnesses. She expressed how she felt that, based on these previous situations, the current situation her mother was in would be one from which she would be able to pull through:
‘I think she would cope with a lot. My mum can cope with a lot. She did have an operation on her arm and she had to get a plate put in and they did say to her that she would only get…likely 45/50 per cent usage. But she pushed on and pushed on and she’s got 90 per cent usage in her arm. They say she would only manage to get her arm to here [lifting arm up from the table]. She can actually get her arm to there [extending arm to 60 degrees]. And, you know, she’s a determined woman.’(Andrea)
In a related example, Jenna described how she had looked for information from the doctor that gave her hope that her step-father would survive:
‘To have heard from the doctor when he had said to us, you know, some people will survive, kind of, gave us a bit of hope; like, well, there is hope.’ (Jenna)
In their situation of extreme anguish, they expressed how they thought that all treatments should be given to the patient to promote the possibility (however small) of them surviving the major stroke:
‘When it’s a family member like you don’t want them to withdraw treatment, you want them to give a 100 per cent and keep going no matter what. If a patient needs to be fed through a tube then they need to be fed through a tube and I don’t think that’s a decision that should be given to the family. It should just be...it should just happen’. (Jenna)
These family members also expressed how they felt isolated at this difficult time and reported that emotional support would have been helpful:
‘Dad’s not coping, we were just left, left like that. There’s no one…Some sort of support would have been helpful, you know…but there was nothing..’ (Andrea)