The communication of a diagnosis of a disease with poor or disabling outcome, in which an effective therapeutic and support plan may not be proposed, is a negative event from an emotional and relational point of view. Good communication is recognized as a pivotal feature for healthcare professionals, and needed for the quality of care they provide [7]. This ability is continuously subjected to evaluation by patients, who always consider it a priority among doctor's skills [8]. Moreover, it is documented that physicians perceive themselves more effective in communicating with patients when their clinical suspicion is confirmed by genetic (cytogenetic and/or molecular) investigations. By converse, families report that communicative effectiveness does not depend on the diagnostic definition. The importance attributed by doctors to diagnosis may reflect their well-known tendency to give value to clinical tests and to diagnostic or therapeutic procedures, while many patients give more weight to the intrinsic importance of the communication process (defined as personal utility) [8]. However, in Italy there is to date no specific training course for the medical profession, during the degree course, aimed at acquiring communication skills, nor subsequently for the neonatologist, during the Specialization School in Pediatrics. Performing simulations of communication scenarios, within the specific clinical activities of each care setting, may be useful for improving staff skills [9].
Improving the doctor-patient/family relationship may have a favorable effect on health outcomes of children and their parents, as well as reduce the phenomenon of defensive medicine and the medico-legal disputes. To implement optimal doctor-patient relationships, the principles of family-centered-care (such as, for example, collaborating with families and respecting their diversities, sharing information and providing individualized care) must be part of post-graduate training courses, policies and operational protocols of hospitals, and behaviors of neonatology and pediatric departments staff [10].
Relationships between team members and parental couple have a major impact in supporting parents’ role, especially if continuity and uniformity of medical and nursing care is guaranteed. Many behaviors of health professionals negatively considered by parents widely reflect difficulties in communication or interpersonal skills, such as a reduced amount of time dedicated to information, or a modality without sensitivity, or also an attitude excessively oriented to clinical aspects. Simple actions, such as increasing attention to the time intended for news transmission, simplifying and adapting language to the interlocutor’s profile, recognizing the positive aspects of the child, and especially the attitudes which offer support (practical and emotional) to parents’ role, may be decisive. It is essential to understand families' point of view, because it allows to interpret their needs [11], and therefore to identify possible solutions to the most pressing problems, sometimes apparently far from doctors’ competences.
In the case of the first communication of a genetic disease diagnosis, the neonatologist/pediatrician has the aim of creating the relationship between health professionals and family. Thus, he lays the foundations to guide parents towards the clinical goal and, through a circular path, he supports and increases trust in their child, giving further strength to the care process. At the same time, he provides all the technical information on the updated clinical and scientific data of the disease which is object of the communication.
In the case of a malformative picture which is evident at birth, communication is particularly challenging, especially if prenatal diagnosis is lacking. In these circumstances, the neonatologist must simultaneously fulfill, in an urgent situation, therapeutic management (stabilizing the adaptation to extrauterine life and preventing any complications), diagnostic procedures (aimed at identifying the cause of the clinical picture), and communication with the parental couple. Parents, indeed, in a context of extreme intensity and vulnerability, must be adequately and timely informed, and involved in the care process. The neonatologist is faced with pressing questions, such as: “what and why did it happen? who is responsible for it? may other problems arise? may they be cured? how will he/she be when he/she grows up? ... ”, and many others will emerge in a short time. Communication with parents in the first hours after birth is then difficult and often decisive, and requires immediacy, sensitivity, experience and adequate skills [12]. The information transmitted, the verbal and non-verbal language used, the place and context in which this occurs, will have a profound impact on the family for many years [13]. Poor communication has, in fact, a long-term negative effect both on the ability to accept diagnosis and to adapt to the new situation, and on the developing relationships between parents and children. Therefore, health and psychological development of the child may be adversely affected for a long time.
There is no communication technique which may be considered effective in all circumstances. However, we may indicate 5 strategic principles:
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Flexibility. The operator must adapt himself to the interlocutor’s cultural and social level, removing commonplaces and prejudices. The higher the level of preconception is, the greater the degree of stereotypy of the communicative moves increases. This is followed by lowering of the therapeutic efficacy, and removal of parents.
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Attitude of listening towards family.
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Parsimony. Clear messages, formulated with suggestive style and sparingly delivered, are easy to understand, generally effective, and get the most for the least. They must not be overly specific, full of technicalities and scientific references. Rather, it can be useful to use anecdotes, metaphors or examples, which lead to greater involvement of parents allowing them to follow suggestions and prescriptions with commitment and trust.
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Usage/empathy. It consists of the use of every element that comes from parents (language, attitude, arguments, etc. ...) for the primary aim of communication, that is the creation of the relationship between health care professionals and family. We must avoid to openly contest the parental couple: every "clash" may be a danger for the relationship, and favor mechanisms of closure and distrust.
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Restructuring. It means to insert the definition of a problem within other systems of meaning. It implies helping family to identify different points of view on aspects of their life experienced, until that moment, as particularly critical and painful. This is useful and functional, also in order to guide parents towards what "they can do" within the diagnostic-therapeutic and/or support plan proposed by the health care professional.
Communication is strategic if it respects these 5 principles. To formulate specific interventions it is essential to know the interlocutor, and to be able to recognize his multiple signals. To grasp and understand all the possible traces that the family may provide in the relationship, it is necessary to give all the time needed to communication. The "psychic time" of parents, which is requested for accepting a child unlike from what they imagined until that moment, is often different than that of the medical intervention. Recognizing this time and being generous with one's own have, then, a therapeutic as well as an ethical value.
It may be useful to resort to some gimmicks to improve communication effectiveness. It may be advantageous, for example, while still maintaining objectivity, to provide first the positive aspects of a news, and then introduce the negative ones. Reversing this order decreases the positive part of the information, because the negative news, which is perceived as the most relevant, if presented first inhibits the perception of the positive one. To increase communication effectiveness, speeches must be directly reported to the interlocutor, avoiding impersonal expressions. These phrases do not recognize to families the specificity of their experience and the particularity of the interaction in which they are involved. A personalized communication takes into account the subject, and is full of references to his experience. It is preferable to use the first plural person (we), instead of the first and second singular one. In this way, it is transmitted the message of being involved in the relationship, and a greater willingness to perform specific behaviors may be obtained. A continuous and direct eye contact reflects true interest, and it guarantees active listening [14]. In Table 1 are summarized the indications for the neonatologists/pediatricians on the first communication of genetic disease/malformation syndrome diagnosis. It may be a useful and practical tool to make easier the informative process with the parents of these patients, as well as to implement the best practices in the relationship with families.
Table 1. Indications for the neonatologist and the pediatrician to make easier the communication of a genetic disease and/or malformation syndrome diagnosis, and to implement the best practices in the relationship with families [15, 16].
The pediatrician-parents relationship is a communicative situation in which the goal is common and shared. The strategic mandate of the pediatrician consists of 1) leading the relationship; 2) accompanying parents towards the clinical goal; 3) keeping always high motivation and trust; 4) ensuring good levels of compliance and managing any unexpected events.
Sometimes fulfilling this task is for the pediatrician a simple, spontaneous and immediate activity. In fact, with many parents it is not necessary to consciously assume a strategic attitude. These are situations in which communication simply flows and generates balances functional to the treatment, which facilitate doctor's work. Other times, however, the relationship with family members is critical, and care may be affected. In these cases, both patient's well-being and that of the healthcare worker are at risk. This happens, for example, with the parents of children with genetic disease, with whom communication is more difficult. Indeed, they are discouraged and question the role and the therapeutic “power” of those who cover it. The pediatrician, in these cases, will be strategic if he is able to behave not only as an expert clinician, but also as a process expert. The latter knows how to pick up signals, even the weak ones, and uses them to promote the therapeutic relationship, to generate behaviors in families that are tuned to the achievement of the clinical goal.